The dented pot and a game of scat…November 27, 2017

The holiday’s are upon us.

I hope all who are reading this had a wonderful Thanksgiving with family and friends.  We were fortunate to hosted Thanksgiving with our families and friends!  As we decorate and get ready to celebrate Christmas and all its wonderful blessings, I can’t help but feel this little ping of heart ache, that I always feel around this time, for those that are no longer with us. Every holiday I explain to my kids, as best I can, just how it felt to gather with family to celebrate a holiday with an afternoon lunch/dinner at grandma’s all the while I find myself trying to replicate such holidays; to no avail.  I do realized, that I’ll never be able to recreate what once was, but I am learning that I can bring in the best of those times into our holiday’s.  There are no better times with family, than those that incorporate old and new traditions.  This post is about just that, incorporating the old and the new.

Recently, my brother and I had a text message exchange about celebrating holiday’s with our extended family at our grandma’s apartment.  While I know for certain, there are several dishes that I’ve not eaten since grandma passed away and the dishes that I’ve had, just don’t taste the same.  As I said to my brother, “there is no better food than the kind sprinkled with grandma’s love”. Several years ago, my father gifted me, the ugliest aluminum pot (lid too) that one has ever seen. It’s old, it has dents, it is mis-colored at the bottom, and has stain’s that no amount of elbow grease or brillo will remove.  Since it’s arrival in our house, this pot has made my family plenty of meals – and this Thanksgiving served as the pot of choice to cook the 7 pounds of potatoes!  But most important, this pot belonged to my Grandma Chapman.  And as silly as this sounds, this pot helped bring grandma a little bit closer this holiday.  It felt good to make something, out of which, she used to cook the many, many meals we all remember.

The ugly pot

As our evening continued, it was a no-brainer that we play a few hands of scat.  We played 3 rounds and laughed while the newbies learned and most of us lost.  But it was when my best friend won her first hand and her pure excitement, that I realized again that it’s not about recreating what once was – it’s about sharing those memories with everyone young and new!

SIDE NOTE: I’m not sure who will read this, but if you’ve ever celebrated a holiday at Grandma Chapmans  – then you know what ‘scat’ is.  But for those of you who don’t – it’s a simple card game where you try to be the first to get a ace, a ten and a face card of all the same suit. And is played typically for small increments of money.  After dinner was done, dishes were washed, the adults would sit down for cards.  This game was a staple during holidays, as much as a turkey is to Thanksgiving.

T and her SCAT winnings!

So, while this post was never intended to be about a person, but only to share with you my feelings of missing loved one’s during holidays, I can’t help but share with you all a little more about Grandma Chapman.  On Friday, December 1st, Grandma Chapman will be our featured person.  This day also marks the fifteenth anniversary since grandma passed.

 

 

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